JLBC LEADERSHIP TRAITS & STYLES
JLBC Cadets, it is essential to Be willing to forgive. JLBC Cadets, to effectively resolve conflict, you must be willing and able to forgive. JLBC Cadets, commitment to determining lies in releasing the urge to punish one for what they do, which can never rectify for our failers and only adds to our hurt by further draining and depleting, and our lives.
JLBC Cadets Know when to let something go. JLBC Cadets If you can't agree, agree to disagree. It takes two individuals to keep an argument going. You can disconnect and move on if a conflict is going nowhere.
JLBC Cadets Fair fighting: JLBC Cadets lay the ground rules
JLBC Cadets Remain calm. JLBC Cadets Try not to overreact to difficult situations. JLBC Cadets, by remaining calm, it will be more likely that other individuals may consider your viewpoint. JLBC Cadets Express feelings in words, not actions. JLBC Cadets Telling an individual directly and honestly how you feel can be a potent communication. JLBC Cadets If you start to feel so upset or angry that you think you may lose objectivity or control, take a "time out" and do an activity to help yourself feel steadier.
JLBC Cadets, Be specific about what is bothering you. JLBC Cadets Vague complaints are hard to work on.
JLBC Cadets Deal with only one issue at a time. JLBC Cadets Only introduce other topics once each is thoroughly discussed. This avoids the "kitchen sink" effect, where individuals throw in all their complaints while preventing everything from being resolved.
JLBC Cadets No "hitting below the belt." JLBC Cadets Attacking areas of individual sensitivity creates an atmosphere of distrust, anger, and vulnerability.
JLBC Cadets Avoid accusations. JLBC Cadets' Accusations will cause others to defend themselves. JLBC Cadets Instead, talk about how an individual's actions made you feel, and don't generalize. JLBC Cadets avoid words like "always" or "never." Such concepts are usually inaccurate and will heighten tensions.
JLBC Cadets Avoid "make-believe." frustrating or inventing a complaint or drawing from your feelings about it will prevent real issues from surfacing. JLBC Cadets, Stick with the facts and your honest feelings.
JLBC Cadets Don't stockpile. JLBC Cadets Storing up many grievances and harmful feelings over time is counterproductive. JLBC Cadets It's almost unproductive to deal with numerous old issues for which interpretations may differ. JLBC Cadets Try to deal with issues as they arise.
Avoid clamming up. When one individual becomes silent and stops responding to another, frustration and maybe anger can result. JLBC Cadets Positive results can only be attained with two-way communication.
JLBC Leadership Traits & Styles